By Adam Majewski
Minneapolis, MN- Marriage is a wonderful time, and is so many time's more often then not, stressed over for the wrong reasons. Many people when just getting married with in their own community. they have many concerns, general worries. are they good enough for the other person are they not, are they just marrying the person for emotional reasons.
When entering a family where the cultural differences can be and usually are much more stressful than one truly thinks it will ever really be it can be difficult at first. It also brings a slew of greatly different feelings from the families, uncertainty and fear of what no one knows. However these feelings and concerns are human and keep us in check as individuals. It helps us keep a reality in focus to make sure that we don't bail out of a situation which is completely normal.
This past week end, I my self became a married man. Something when I was growing up never thought would happen due to my own parents some what uncomfortable divorce for my sister maggie and my self. How ever we got through it and are living our own good happy lives, her being married the year before myself.
January 25, I married the woman of my dream a dream I came to realize after the fact of meeting her. in the west where I grew up there is the idea that all love between a Husband and Wife is that of the endorphins high which all relationships see and feel at the beginning of a truly loving relationship. how ever most marriages end in failure do to a few small facts.
A few of these I have come to realize for my self as I see my self grow every day as a husband in a positive way. First I need to mention that my wife and I have some difficulties or disadvantages some of which most other relationships do not have so we as a loving couple have to first off work a lot harder to communicate as well keep in reality that we are both human and are going to make mistakes. Also that we must remember but not dwell on those mistake in order to change and continue forward to becoming better people and a better husband and wife.

The things which I have notice about love and marriage is that they are about five major things give or take a few. that everyone needs to keep close to themselves and stick to if their marriage to continue forward. I do understand that my marriage is very young but my wife and I have been together long enough as friends and a couple that the religious and legal formalities in order to take part in starting a family together where only the las piece of this puzzle we call Dunia or life. These 3 items I say starts with: 1. Communication, this is number one on at least my list because if a couple does not communicate at all then sorry, but the relationship will end in divorce. 2. For a good relationship to continue then the second most important relationship need is acceptance, what I mean by this is that, there are going to be times when a married couple has no interests in some areas such as maybe the type of books they read. My own wife reads more biographical books my self I read cook books and fiction. the key though is that in some cases we will just be a part but the key is finding ways to bring our interests together so when reading even though reading different book types it is to read when together and accepting that we wont always have the same interests. 3. The third is a life plan and change. No matter what happens in a relationship plans don't normally go how you want them to, but it is important that as a couple you plan for what you want in life and keep in mind that some of the items on your plan will change depending on life events but to keep in mind the end result of what you want in life and to keep trying.
Now these are just a starting point for marriage after these are taken care of then all other parts can be taken in to consideration. How ever these are also just my views on the matter of what a good relationship needs before marriage, and I am not an educated licensed Professional so that means you should take this article with a grain of salt, before just jumping in to anything and find what is right for you.